Punishment isn’t very effective for changing teen behaviour; building a relationship in which they know you love them, and are trying to help them help themselves, is far more powerful.
As parents we do need clear and consistent boundaries, backed by consequences that make sense.
Trying to punish our teens is a horrible way of breaking the trust and connection that we’re trying so hard to build, and it’s not even effective.
If you want more details on how to set consequences go to www.teenagersuntangled.com and click on the top bar for the podcast episode. I also have a follow-up blog on setting consequences.
The study I refer to came from the book Inventing Ourselves by Sarah-Jayne Blakemore, Professor of Psychology and Cognitive Neuroscience at the University of Cambridge.
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